Things that unite Europe
are you kiddin’ me? if the eastern block countries voted wrong it could easily start some kinda war. eurovision is some serious shit.
saying “that’s how things are” is incredibly useless when talking about social issues because yes, we are aware that that’s how things are, and we don’t like it, that’s the whole point
congratulations on providing no useful input to the conversation
tw: self-harming, negative behaviours
i used to cut. like, a lot. and it was a fucking nightmare to go through. but i stopped. i haven’t done it for over 6 months.
cutting can just feel like a good way to get your adrenaline up, to feel ‘real’ or to feel like you have some control over your body. but ultimately it is a counter-productive way of doing so and can cause a lot of problems both medically (i.e. serious injury, excessive bleeding, muscle breakdown) and mentally (i.e. negative patterns of behaviours, leads to more serious behaviour like suicidal thoughts/tendancies etc.).
like, genuinely i didn’t stop cutting at first because everything was fine and dandy and i never got depressed, dissociative, manic or anxious anymore. i stopped because i realised that it did so much more harm than good and that is was not a sustainable way of coping. it couldn’t go on. how could i do this for my whole life?
so you find another way. i drew on myself a lot at first, which helps with the visual representation on your body. i tried to be with people when i was feeling bad, even if we just sat together quietly, or if we were only speaking online/over the phone. i cry. i lay around and feel sorry for myself or i comfort eat a little (i’m not suggesting unhealthy behaviours like binging).
adrenaline rushes can come from simple things like running around in the rain, jumping into a lake (my personal fave) or cycling really fast down a hill. they’re also a lot more fun!
i have a bunch of piercings and a tattoo (want more) because they help me to take ownership of my body. sometimes just altering your appearance specifically cus you wanna can make you feel more in control of things.
i sympathise fully with people who self-harm, i really do. and i just hope that they can also find other ways of coping some day.